This is from the girls 3.5 pictures
I have struggled with writing this post several times before and always decided that it wasn't the right thing to do. I was going to be the bigger person and figured that some of the mean comments I got were just from stupid people and that I some how I had almost asked for them having a public blog. I have thought about going private but have several older family members who read that may or may not be able to figure out the private thing. But enough is enough, and this mama has had ENOUGH. I thought I would just repost the two comments I have gotten lately (have gotten SEVERAL just like this in the past) and address them in the open. Since I have so many (figuring its actually really just one or two people who aren't brave enough to post an actual link to their blog) people that are so concerned with the physical appearance and the differences between my children.
I visited your blog a few weeks ago and there are a thing that i don't understand. Why one of your twins (Kinley, i think) have more thin face, her face is more thin too, is more high, more pretty, and have more beautiful smile than the other twin. The weight and height is understandable. But the face? :s
It's so strange o_O
It's so strange o_O
THIS IS COPIED AND PASTED FROM THE COMMENTS. IT IS EXACTLY WHAT THIS COMMENTER WROTE.
Well Sandra, let me clear a few things up for you that you don't understand. "why does one of your twins (Kinley, I think) have more thin face, her face is more thin too..." Well I believe one of my twins has a more thin face because she has a more thin face than her sister. She isn't Madelyn and they aren't even identical twins. But even in identical twins the weight in their face may be different at any given time. Im sorry that their faces aren't exactly the same for you. Since they are fraternal twins their DNA is like normal siblings, is your face the exact same size as your siblings?
"is more high, more pretty, and have more beautiful smile than the other twin." I don't even know what to say here. I don't agree with ANY OF THIS question/statement. They are babies and who are you to judge them.
"The Weight and height is understandable. But the face." This doesn't make sense how is it ok for their weight to be different but not show it in their face? Actually my twins are the EXACT same weight. Yes, Kinley is taller than Madelyn so yes sometimes she looks thinner. Gosh how dare they be different? Both girls weigh about 24 or so pounds. They are underweight for their age and barely on the chart for height. They are small petite girls. BOTH OF THEM.
Sandra, I don't understand a few things. Why does it matter to you why my twins look different? We get asked all the time if they are identical, even though their faces are different sizes. Why do you feel the need to comment that one is prettier than the other? I personally don't share your opinion. I know both of our girls are beautiful and not that this matters but we get told how pretty they both are by strangers all the time.
I think Kinlee looks like her mom, and has her mom's gummy smile. Also, she may have a shunt in her head for the hydrocephalus, that could be why her forehead and head is so much larger than other girl. So yeah, a medical condition is nothing to make fun of. Either way, they both are adorable girls and very much loved by their parents
ok, so this comment is almost like the person is defending my girls...SORT OF. "I think Kinlee looks like her mom, and has her mom's gummy smile." So not sure who this person is talking about about because it SEEMS like she is talking about a different child than the previous comment but whatever. Yes, both girls look like me and their Dad. At any given time I can see both of us in them...funny how that works. ;) Yep sorry for the girls they did get my gummy smile...sorry you can't pick and choose what DNA gets passed on. Hey if that is the only bad thing that happens to them I think they will be ok, I have had to deal with a gummy smile all my life and I have managed somehow...
"Also, she may have a shunt in her head for the hydrocephalus, that could be why her forehead and head is so much larger than other girl. So yeah, a medical condition is nothing to make fun of."
ok, here is where this comment is so strange. While I agree that a medical condition is NOTHING to make fun of...neither of my children have hydrocephalus nor a shunt. Also just in case you are so worried about them having this medical condition my cousin is a Neurologist and pretty sure he would have said something. I could get a statement if you would like ;) Pretty sure if they did I would post it on THEIR blog. As for one of their foreheads being larger than the other...it just is larger. Again siblings don't all look EXACTLY alike and neither do my children. I believe with all my heart that NO ONE would ever say anything about large foreheads or different size faces to my girls if they weren't twins. always having someone the same age right beside them at all times. No one says to a mother of two different aged children..."wow, your 9 year olds head was SOO much larger than their sisters when they were their age" I constantly worry about having girls that are similar getting compared...thanks for bringing this fear to life while they are so young. That's awesome!
"Either way, they both are adorable girls and very much loved by their parents"
Not that I need your approval but yes both girls are adorable and VERY MUCH LOVED by their parents...and others.
Ok, rant over. If you can't say anything nice, please not say anything at all.
Also I will be erasing this post before my girls are able to read. I wouldn't want them to read any of these comments. This blog was continued to be a baby book for them.